Holy crap. Figuring out how to be an adult is hard. When I finished college, I went straight to graduate school because I wasn’t ready to do all the adulting yet (a lot of other reasons too–fear of adulting is probably not a swell reason to seek a graduate degree).
“You’re all grown up!”
People say that like it’s a good thing but it leaves you wanting to sink back into bed and hide under the covers.
You might be 20 or 25 or 45. For some of us, the feeling of inadequacy keeps bubbling up no matter how old we are.This whole ‘adulthood’ thing feels like it kinda sucks. Yeah, I hear that.
All of a sudden (or at least that’s how it feels), you’re expected to do your own laundry, have a job, build a social life, stay current on politics and world affairs, let your grandparents know you love them, buy a house, and have 2.5 children. Oh, god. I’m having trouble breathing after just typing that!
There are no manuals for making friends after college…and all the lists about it are either full of things you’re already doing or make it seem harder than swimming across the Pacific.
adulting is hard.
And just as you’re feeling incompetent or defeated or ashamed or just plan small, remind yourself that Life Is Hard and sometimes you need a little help.
Together, we can help you crawl out from under the covers and walk into adult life…and maybe even be happy about it.
Here’s the deal, shit happens and a lot of the time we don’t have any control over it. When we are little (aka non-adults) there are other people who get splattered with most of the shit of life and shield us from it. And then we get to that age when we can vote and rent a car and apply for a mortgage and the shit comes hurling at us. And sometimes it gets too overwhelming that we need some help.
I can’t keep the shit from happening any more than I can keep the world from spinning on its axis. I’m not going to lie to you and tell you that working with me will make your life easy. I can, however, offer you real, practical tools for handling the chaos of adulthood and working through the overwhelm.
We will figure out what feels too hard and sometimes we will look for solutions…sometimes we will wonder and dive into why it feels too hard…and sometimes we will help you accept that life is really stinking hard and pushing back against it just creates more suffering.